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Unleashing Laughter and Love


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Unleashing Laughter and Love

Unleashing Laughter and Love:

In the vast landscape of podcasts, some gems stand out not only for their content but also for the authenticity and relatability they bring to their audience. One such podcast is "Love Before 100" by the charismatic Rachel Burch. In this blog, we delve into Rachel's journey, her transition from a legal career to becoming a humor-filled podcaster, and the inspiration behind her podcast.


From Legal Eagles to Humor Maven:

Rachel Burch's journey is a testament to the twists and turns life can take. Initially drawn to the world of law by the influence of her father and the glamorized portrayal of legal dramas like Matlock, Rachel spent a decade in litigation. However, the reality of the legal profession fell short of her expectations, leading her to question her path. Feeling stuck in a situation, whether it be a job or a relationship, can be a universal experience. Rachel's story of breaking free from the legal world and finding her true calling is not only inspiring but relatable to many who might be contemplating similar shifts in their lives.


The Pivot to Podcasting:

Rachel's transition from law to podcasting wasn't a meticulously planned move. It was a result of divine nudges and unexpected encounters. Hiring a podcast manager with an entertainment background turned out to be a pivotal moment. Together, they shaped the concept of "Love Before 100," a podcast that intertwines personal growth, humor, and the exploration of various bucket list items. The podcast's format, part reality show, part rom-com, and part Ted Talk, adds a unique flavor to the podcasting realm. It's a testament to the unpredictable paths life can take and how embracing change can lead to unexpected and fulfilling outcomes.


Learning from Love:

"Love Before 100" isn't just a podcast; it's a journey through Rachel's experiences in the realm of relationships. Michelle Henderson aptly describes it as akin to watching Sex and the City, where listeners can resonate with the storyteller's emotions. Through the podcast, Rachel shares her insights on love, dating, and the rollercoaster of emotions that come with it. One key takeaway from Rachel's podcast is the realization that love and relationships are not solely about oneself. Understanding that external factors often influence the dynamics of relationships can be a profound revelation. It's a shift from a self-centered perspective to a more compassionate and empathetic understanding of others.


The Essence of "Love Before 100":

The podcast isn't just about Rachel's personal journey; it serves as a mirror reflecting the shared experiences of many navigating the complexities of modern dating. Rachel's vulnerability and humor allow listeners to connect with her stories, creating a sense of camaraderie in the sometimes isolating world of dating. As Rachel takes on various bucket list items in her quest for love, listeners are treated to a genuine exploration of personal growth, self-discovery, and the pursuit of happiness. The podcast becomes a platform for viewers to reflect on their own lives and find inspiration in Rachel's journey.


Favorite Episodes and Cliffhangers:

Rachel's favorite episodes, like "Hotdog Sexy dms and Top Gun," take listeners on an emotional rollercoaster. The podcast isn't always about humor; it's about the raw, unfiltered experiences that make love a universal and relatable theme. Another notable episode is the season two finale, set in Manchester, where Rachel leaves her audience hanging with a well-crafted cliffhanger, eagerly anticipating the next chapter.


A Mantra for Inspiration:

Rachel's go-to mantra, "Everything's always working out for me," encapsulates the essence of her positive outlook on life. Drawing inspiration from spiritual teacher Esther Hicks, this mantra reflects a belief in divine plans and a conviction that life's twists and turns are ultimately leading to a better destination.


Parting Words:

If Rachel Burch were to bid farewell with a single word, she'd choose "faith." It's a powerful sentiment that encapsulates her journey, her podcast, and the broader theme of navigating the unpredictable journey of life with trust and belief in oneself and the universe.

In the world of podcasting, "Love Before 100" stands out as a beacon of authenticity, humor, and inspiration, reminding us all that the pursuit of love is a shared experience filled with unexpected twists and turns.



Episode Transcript:


Michelle Henderson  (00:12):

Are you feeling stuck in a relationship or just so frustrated and you feel like you are alone? My next guest, Rachel Birch, has created a podcast and it's love Before 100, and it's such a great podcast because if you're feeling lonely, it's almost like watching Sex in the City is that you feel like, oh my gosh, I feel like exactly how the storyteller feels. And if you really enjoy listening to how people are inspired in creating podcasts or anything that really shows them who they truly are to you, this episode will be for you. So I hope that you enjoy the conversation that Rachel and I had. Rachel, how are you?


Rachel Burch  (01:02):

I'm so good. How are you?


Michelle Henderson  (01:04):

Oh, I am very excited to have this podcast and this conversation episodes, shall we say, because again, I have so many clients ask me about their love life. And I know it is so difficult to be single these days and without finding a place to meet people. And I love your podcast, but before we go there, I'm going to learn more about you. So you were young and you go, oh, you know what? I'm going to be a lawyer. I'm going to conquer the world. And then you were kind of surprised. So tell us about why you wanted to be a lawyer and how you got out of being a lawyer. Because a lot of people don't dunno what to do next after finding a career of their choice and then they hate it. They don't know what to do next.


Rachel Burch  (01:55):

Yeah, stuck in a situation, whether it's a job or a marriage or whatever it is, and you feel hopeless that you cannot get out and then you do looking back can be really emotional. And so it's interesting because I used to take on coaching clients, I don't currently, and one of the things I used to say is imagine how you'll feel in your body, right? I'm sure you do this too with your clients. Feel the feelings of how it's going to feel. And I just feel like to feel that relief and that pride that I was able to get out of it, it was kind of like a full circle moment there. So thank you for that. But yeah, I always say I watched Mat Locke growing up with my dad and I was brainwashed by Matt Locke and my dad to think that the law was exciting and fun and it, it definitely wasn't.

It was a lot of work. It was stressful. I was working for people that were very mean to me. It wasn't fun and it wasn't what I expected it to be, but I did it for 10 years and I was at three different litigation firms and then I went in-house and I just couldn't find what I needed. Really what we know as coaches is what I needed was to make the changes inside, to have the boundaries and not be so codependent, all those kinds of things. But instead I ended up leaving the law and then I learned all those things later and through going into coaching. So yeah, that's kind of the abridged version of all that.


Michelle Henderson  (03:47):

And I think it's so interesting because a lot of people do find, based on our beliefs, we're supposed to go to college, we need to find a career that pays our bills and everything. But a lot of times, like you said, it does not fulfill you and it is difficult to get out of it because you're making good money and it's so hard to take that leap of faith. But once you do you in your video, you're looking in the rear view mirror, everything is behind you basically so that you can move forward. So how did you know that you would be humorous and how did you know that you would really enjoy being in the entertainment business?


Rachel Burch  (04:28):

I didn't. I had to try it to know I really, coming from a place of being a huge skeptic in everything in my life, I've really learned to kind of follow the divine guidance. I know that you're very spiritual as well. And so it's really following those nudges and it developed over time. I did win best sense of humor in high school, which was a surprise to me. I mean, I knew I was funny, but I didn't think I was funny to other people. I crack myself up all the time, but people, it's a little bit harder. So winning that definitely gave me that encouragement. If you're going to get into comedy or entertainment, it's always good to know that you're also funny to other people. A lot of people, so many people will come up to me and be like, oh, we want to try standup comedy, and I'll engage with the person for a few minutes and I'll go, I'm not really seeing the funny side, not judging, but you know what I mean.


Some of the funny is usually part of who you are. And then in standup comedy, they teach you how to harness it. It's kind of like in the law they teach you how to think. A lawyer in the standup comedy classes, they really teach you how to perform a standup comedian. And so you take these skills and then you marry them with natural personality traits. For me, what made it so much easier? I mean, yes, people that aren't naturally these things can succeed in the law or in standup comedy, but it was kind of just an extension of who I was. And so I think that's why I hadn't thought of this before, but based on your question, I think that's why it did come naturally and I did have success in those areas because it just appealed to part of who I was. Maybe the higher self then said, let's go in this direction. And I said, okay. And together we all did it. Yeah.


Michelle Henderson  (06:34):

And that is so important to listen to your higher self and your intuition and follow that. And I think a lot of people do, their ego gets in the way and they start questioning it and so forth. So good for you to saying Yes, I think I want to move forward, that type thing.


Rachel Burch  (06:51):

It's never like, oh, this is a clear voice for me, right? I'm like, who's saying that? Is that my fear is that my ego? Is that my childhood stories? Is that my intuition? There's a whole committee in there. So yes, I was able to follow it, but I just want to say for your listeners and for myself, it's not always this booming voice. You really have to pay attention


Michelle Henderson  (07:16):

And like you said, experiment to see where you find your essence, where you find yourself. So absolutely. So let's go ahead and dive into, and I love your podcast, so love before 100. Now tell us what inspired you to do this and how did you come up with this concept? Everybody that does podcast, they come up with a concept again to show them people who they truly are to and have an audience. So what is the idea behind it and your inspiration behind it?


Rachel Burch  (07:52):

So I had a previous podcast called The Transformation Maven, and it was me doing solo episodes. And then I always had guests very similar to your show, and I had 67 episodes of transformation. And whenever I would get tired from putting out weekly episodes, I would go on hiatus. Okay, season two has ended, right? All of a sudden I'm like, I've had enough the season's over, I'd wait and then launch a new season. So I think I had about four seasons and I was in the place of contemplating launching season five. I was ready to start and I had all these ideas about season five transformation Maven, and I was going to do maybe one or two episodes about transformation through dating. I thought it's awful. I have to make it appeal to who I am as a person. I love growth. So I'm going to learn about personal growth through dating, right?

Trial by fire, and I'm going to do a couple episodes on it. And I have done seasons where I've worked with a personal virtual assistant and I've done seasons where I do all the editing and I do my own stuff. And so my virtual assistant, who was amazing, retired to start teaching people how to be podcast managers. And so one day I was on a walk and I got this divine guidance. I'm going to ask her to refer her top client, and I'm going to hire that person to do my podcast. And as I continued to walk, I thought, no, I'm going to go online and find out how much does a podcast manager make and I'm going to offer her double. I'm just going to bring her back so she can work with me just for another season. So I come home, I go in, I type in podcast managers and what they're making, and I start looking.

And the third one down is located in my same city and is an Australian, and I love Australians. And so I was like, oh, this is a sign. They're Australian and they live here. So I scheduled a meeting with him. Turns out he was the post-production producer on the Bachelor Australia and also the Voice Australia and also the Biggest Loser Australia. So with my podcast, I call it part reality show, part romcom, part Ted Talk, and he really appealed to that reality show component. So I had an interview with him and I ended up hiring him. I thought this was a manifestation, this was God putting him in front of me. So I told him all the different ideas that I had, and he was the one that said, the bucket list idea is the most interesting. It's not a lot of that out there.

Maybe we should play with that. And I thought, you know what? I can still talk about transformation and I'll just put it through the various bucket list items. If I do a lap dance class and that makes me want to throw up because I'm being vulnerable, I can talk about getting outside my comfort zone and checking something off the list. So that's together. We came up with that concept. He narrowed it down. We played with different names, and ultimately I said, I want something that's kind of like me. It kind of has a little play on words. And he came up with love before 100, and then I started to talk about various artwork that I've used in the past. And he said, I'm really seeing kind of a caricature. And he knew a guy that could do the artwork that you just showed. And so it was really in partnership with him that it went in this direction and it's really been such a blessing. It was not anything I ever could have planned. To your point where you say, we sit down and we plan it out. I did not plan it out. That was not my plan. It's never my plan.


Michelle Henderson  (12:01):

And that's how wonderful, wonderful things that we create start not by planning it, but like you said, it's kind of meant to be and it happens and you're going, that's not a bad idea after all. So what have you learned about love and relationships since you have started this podcast?


Rachel Burch  (12:24):

Oh, so much. I'm still there. I'm still a hopeless romantic. I'm still naive in a lot of these things. The main thing that I've learned is not about me. All the times that I was like, oh my God, this person didn't pick me, or This person doesn't like me, or I'm rejected here, or this didn't turn out. It's not about me. Oftentimes as a coach, it's kind of like, oh, I can see where this person can't receive love, or I can see this person's wounding, or I can see this pattern showing up. I can see my pattern, I can see my wounding. It's been very eyeopening. And the great thing about the podcast, and this is advice that I would say to anyone that's dating, is setting yourself up for a win-win. It's kind of like if something terrible happens, if I get my heart broken, it goes into the podcast.

In fact, it did. The catalyst for these episodes was meeting someone and it not turning out how I wanted it to. And I put all that in there because like you said in the intro, I was working with clients at the time, and it's the same things were happening to them. And I thought, it feels so lonely and you think you're the only one and you take it personally. That's just the nature of the game, especially if you're on a dating app, what has happened, it's almost like some kind of drug when you're on the app. It changes the way that you look at what's available. People are very quick to move to the next one. This perception that there's an abundance of options and there really isn't. And so I've learned just so much about human nature and myself, I've gotten to a point almost not there yet, but almost where it's like I would be totally fine if I didn't find it. And when I started, I thought, I'm just a lover. I need, I'm not somebody that's always in relationship at all, but I've always craved relationship. And so I just thought that's who I was and what I'm learning now and what season three is about is getting all my needs met, all the needs that I want met in a relationship in other ways and how satisfying that can be too.


Michelle Henderson  (14:50):

Do you think it's real, I don't want to say smart idea, that doesn't sound right, but if somebody is really wanting a relationship but they have not found themselves, would you recommend them reaching out for somebody to try to find themselves? Or should they find themselves first?


Rachel Burch  (15:11):

So I think that's a hard question because I used to get frustrated. I've done so much work, and when someone would tell me that I had more work to do before my person could come along, I would get really mad, especially because I'm looking around at all these people that have not done any work and they're in relationships, so why can't I be in one? So I would say start working on yourself now, definitely. But it doesn't have to necessarily correlate to whether you can bring a relationship in. You will definitely call in a higher quality of person if you have work to do on yourself. I remember being like, oh, I don't want to call someone in actually yet, because seeing some things I need to work on and whoever I call in is going to be basically a mirror of those things. And so you can have a relationship at any point, but the quality of your relationship will only increase as you find yourself and work on yourself and continue to love on yourself and do all the things that you're, if you're looking for a relationship for outside validation, if you need someone to tell you you're beautiful or you're this or you're that, then it's problematic.

It's not going to be ideal. If you can tell yourself those things and you just are seeking companionship, which is a natural human need, then you can get into a relationship. You can continue to work on yourself, but really take some time to look at why do I want a relationship? What do I need out of the relationship? And if it's more than companionship, physical touch, all those kinds of things, and it's really validating who you are as a person or an ego type thing, then yeah, I would advise also doing the work. But again, you can bring someone in, they just may not be the answer that you're hoping for.


Michelle Henderson  (17:07):

I'm really thinking about my client situations. Whenever they ask me the number one thing is they always wanting, when am I going to meet him? When do you think that you can look too hard for somebody? You know what I'm saying? Where you put too much energy into finding this man. What kind of recommendation would you give for that type of person? Really going?


Rachel Burch  (17:31):

I mean, yeah, I can definitely say that's something that I've done many, many times. And I think as someone that gets advice from people, it's a lot easier to receive that advice from somebody that's in that boat and not in a relationship. Nothing makes me crazier than having somebody. I had woman that I was learning some dance stuff from, and she was recently divorced, but she was already in a relationship and I've been divorced for six years. And so she was telling me, you have to love yourself more. And I just wanted to punch her in the face. I was like, when did you love yourself more in that three months that you were single between relationships? And so it's a double-edged sword because you want it, and the energy of wanting it is what is presented and what oftentimes repels. And so that's definitely something that I knew, but I've seen because I've seen it the other way.

When I see a man come along and he's just very grabby and ready, I think, you don't even know me. How can you want a relationship with me? You don't even know me. And so I could see how it would be the same thing on the other side. And so one of the big things that I've kind of taken away for letting things unfold and wanting the person is to have to say, I need to get to know people. I mean, there are a lot of weirdos out there. I have gone out with a lot of weirdos and I've talked about them on the podcast, and some are coming up that I'm writing. I was writing earlier today, and I was just like, nobody's normal. Nobody that I have met is normal. And if you rush, you're going to miss that. You're going to end up in another not great relationship.

And I get it because ready, I'm ready to be in a relationship. And so actually, I wrote down, I actually wrote this down yesterday, so I'll pull up. Yes, yes. What I changed my languaging to is the universe has a plan. I don't know what it is, but what I do know is that my life keeps getting better and better. And so faith and people keep telling me this, and so people listening may be like, I already heard that. That doesn't work for me, but faith that it is coming. And that's one of my biggest things. I'm more sure that it's not coming than it is. And that's why I have to change the language to the universe has a plan, and I don't know what the plan is, but I know that my life is getting better and better. I just went and spent the weekend in San Diego with a girlfriend that I met through a coaching program, and I got to hang out with her.

We walked by. We did all the things that I would want to do on a, well, not all the things. We did, many things that I would want to do on a romantic getaway with a man with her because she was in town from Atlanta. We walked, we ate, we drank, we laughed. And so I can feel the feelings of being in a relationship without being in a relationship. And so the more you enjoy life and do those things, the less you need it. And then unfortunately, that's always when they say it shows up anyway. But either way, you're just loving your life, so why not go that route?


Michelle Henderson  (21:02):

I totally agree. I got to tell you the story of how my husband and I met. Okay. And it's like one of those things that you're not looking for. So I was 18 and I was with my best friend, and we were cruising. And when I say cruising, a lot of people are going, what do you mean the young ones? Okay, so we were in a car going back and forth on a street looking for guys, but just having a good time because we lived in a small town, there's nothing to do. And we pull up to this red light and a TransAm comes up and we're side by side. And here I'm in my clunker, my Toyota that could barely run, and my best friend and I wouldn't have said anything. I was so shy. She stuck her head out and she goes, Hey, nice car. And so he goes, well, thank you. Nice car. And I'm went, yeah, right. And he's with his best friend and he said, well, why don't we pull over and talk and we're going, okay, back then you're going. They were in high school too. I don't know how safe that is. So we get in their car and I end up marrying, of course, my husband and my best friend marries his best friend,

And we had three kids. So you just never know. Like you said, it depends on what your life has in store. And if you don't look for it, sometimes it comes when it's unexpected and it's like a little gift. Like you said, you've got to enjoy life to the fullest. So now what is your, before we go on to the next thing, I want to know what is your favorite episode of, I know that you've got many episodes, but what is your favorite episode?


Rachel Burch  (22:50):

It's a tough call. I think the second episode that I kind of referenced where it's called Hotdog Sexy dms and Top Gun, and it's the episode about this guy that I meet on the plane, and it just walks through that whole kind of relationship or whatever you want to call it. And it's fun because some of my guy friends that listen will say, that really took you on a journey. You feel all the emotions over the course of that episode. It's not like the funniest episode, but actually it's up for a signal award as Best Gateway podcast episode, meaning podcasts that suck you in to the wonderful world of podcasts listening, because it really does, it takes you on a journey. And I feel like it was part of what inspired the podcast. It was such a beautiful experience for me. And so it's very nostalgic for me. But other than that, I feel like the last episode of season two where I go to Manchester and visit some girlfriends,


Michelle Henderson  (24:00):

I listened to it.


Rachel Burch  (24:01):

We did okay. And we had a really good cliff hanger people, I get death threats, not really, but from some of my friends when they hit a cliffhanger and want to know when they're listening and there's no next episode to binge while they're listening, while they come out. So it had a good cliffhanger.


Michelle Henderson  (24:20):

It did. I'm going. Did she mean to stop there?


Rachel Burch  (24:24):

Yeah.


Michelle Henderson  (24:27):

What happened? Did he or what did it happen? Anyway, I won't tell. They have to listen to it before they understand it. So that's a last episode of the second season. Okay. So now what I want to know, I'm changing things. If somebody wanted to have an inspiration, and it doesn't have to have love in it, but what inspiration could you give them about anything?


Rachel Burch  (24:55):

Well, my favorite mantra and one that I teach my boys, my boys are seven and 14, but I've been talking about this for years and they use it against me sometimes is everything's always working out for me. I love Esther Hicks, and I'll watch a lot of Esther Hicks videos when I'm feeling that I need inspiration. And one of them, everything's always working out for me, is just something that I've really adopted. And basically, when you think things are happening to you, they're happening for you When you don't understand, there's some divine plan that's taking you. So if you are in a place where you need inspiration, it's usually because things aren't working out how you want them to. And I have to say, things never work out how I want them to, but that's usually because they work out better than I want them to. There's a different plan, it's always a better plan. And so just having the belief, the faith that this is happening for me, not to me, it's going to get you to a place where you feel inspired and curious and ready to see what's around the next corner. So that's always my go-to, and I need inspiration.


Michelle Henderson  (26:08):

I love it. Unanswered prayers.


Rachel Burch  (26:11):

Yeah.


Michelle Henderson  (26:12):

And Garth Brooks has a song that I absolutely love that I listened to it quite a bit and cried with it thinking. Yeah, that's definitely, and then you're right, you don't know what's going to be on the other side of the mountain once you reach the other side. So, alright. Are you ready for the last question?


Rachel Burch  (26:30):

Sure.


Michelle Henderson  (26:32):

Okay, let me bring the wheel up. All right. Let's see. You just never know. Let's see.


Rachel Burch  (26:41):

Does that say fax number? No. Favorite book.


Michelle Henderson  (26:46):

What is your fax number? LOL Okay, so what is your favorite movie?


Rachel Burch  (26:55):

I think love, actually.


Michelle Henderson  (26:58):

Really? Okay. Why?


Rachel Burch  (27:00):

It's just so many little love stories all in one. It's like the ultimate rom-com. It takes place in the uk. I mean, it's actually, I mentioned it. Yeah, I think I mentioned it in that last episode too. It's just a feel good movie. And they have English accents. I mean, that wraps it up right there.


Michelle Henderson  (27:25):

You have something about accents, don't you? I do,


Rachel Burch  (27:28):

I do. I do. Actually. My former podcast, the Transformation Maven, I tried to get all guests with accents. That was all I wanted. So yeah, I do.


Michelle Henderson  (27:37):

Yes. Well, I do have the Texas draw.


Rachel Burch  (27:41):

You do? I like it. I do.


Michelle Henderson  (27:43):

I know, but I know what you mean. The British draw and the Australian, it's so much fun to listen to. My spiritual teacher is actually from England, and I just love being taught by her. Just, I don't know, it just makes it so much more fun.


Rachel Burch  (28:01):

Interpret of accent classes because, but that's not a skill that I have. It is. I torture my children when I try to do my accents. They're like, no, please don't do that anymore. So yeah.


Michelle Henderson  (28:14):

Yeah, use it in your comedy skits. Okay. So where can everybody reach you?


Rachel Burch  (28:23):

So Instagram, the Rachel Birch. I respond to people's messages. I've had people that will tell me they'll listen to the podcast. And I love communicating with people that way. I have love before 100 on Instagram as well. Yeah, that's usually the best way to reach me.


Michelle Henderson  (28:43):

And of course your podcast is everywhere. I know it's on Apple. Yes. And so everybody, if you listen to it, definitely leave a review. It does help the podcasters.


Rachel Burch  (28:54):

Yes, very much


Michelle Henderson  (28:55):

So. Definitely. Definitely do that. Okay, so if you were going to say goodbye by using one word, it could be inspirational, it could be anything. What would you say?


Rachel Burch  (29:07):

Faith.


Michelle Henderson  (29:09):

Oh, I love it. And I actually have, I guess it's on the other side of me, a little brick. And I know you can't read it, but it says Faith. Oh, I love that. And so everybody like what she's talking about. If you're looking for a relationship, just have faith in yourself and have faith in God that thinks are going to work out. Because sometimes unanswered prayers are the best ones, especially once you get to know the person that you're looking for. Okay. That they will definitely come. Alright, so I hope you enjoyed the podcast and I will see you next week.

 

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